Question:
I recently broke up with my boyfriend. We both ended on good terms with the mutual agreement that it wouldn't work out between us in the future. However, I've realized that I feel totally isolated and alone without that one person in my life. It's hard when you go to talking to someone 90% of the time to never speaking to them again. I keep feeling lonely and I find it difficult to connect with my friends who have their own groups of people that they hang out with on a regular basis. I don't want to force anyone to all of a sudden crank up the amount of time they spend with me, and I don't want to bring up the topic of my break up either. I'm really sad and I find myself crying myself to sleep most nights because of how alone and unimportant I feel. This along with school and other stresses makes it hard for me to motivate myself to study. Any suggestions on what I should do?
Response 1:
It’s difficult to go back into daily life without having someone being able to talk to you 90% of the time. However, this opens up to many other opportunities!
I suggest with finding motivation to study, be open to go up to your friends and study with them. It not only allows you to focus, but also a very rewarding experience. They help keep you on track and you’re able to communicate with those friends especially when you’re feeling lonely. It’s even more helpful if you would study with them before any midterm comes up. By slowly developing your friendship with your peers, they will definitely stick by you! You can even go on different events that are held by the school or join multiple clubs. That’s also a great way to be involved and keeps you busy. Another idea is to find hobbies that you enjoy doing and keeps your mind busy. It’s even more helpful if you get to do them with a close friend(s). Exercising is a great way to help you focus and be more determined, as well as taking care of yourself physically. With stressful times during school and this situation, it would help your mind focus on other things.
Response 2:
Hey,
First of all, I’m sorry that you are going through this. It is not easy having to deal with a breakup and the stress of school at the same time. Having said that, it really does shine a new light that can be used to do great things! Making friends, picking up a sport/hobby/workout routine, new studying habits etc. All these things do help as you go through the recovery process, but time is sometimes all it takes to recover. If things are still not getting better or getting worse, you're not alone, it can get better if you seek help. We have a great counsellor that visits us on the pharmacy campus and would be able to help. You can reach them using this phone number 519-888-4567 ext. 32655 or visit https://uwaterloo.ca/counselling-services/ for more info. There are also many many other resources in KW that can help you out. Contact one of us mentors and we would be more than willing to help you out! Hope this helps :)